As this process continues I find I lose more and have give up with dignity. I mean privacy and sense of dignity. I now need assistance changing my Depends..that means someone else removes them gives me a quick clean with a baby wipe.  Often this is a son or daughter. And on the toilet I need to lean against someone as my bowel empties and the another person clean me usually my wife. At first I found these experiences difficult to accept but I have. It makes everyone 's life easier and i have found, oddly, a rewarding level of intimacy and love.  .so, what are dignity and privacy?you have to redefine